Radar

"And just when I am moving on, he shows up, all nice and sweet and 'changed'. It's like some weird radar or something. Where were ya a month ago?" - GGE Girl

 

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In honor of the "Sex in the City 2" debut

"So many roads, so many detours, so many choices, so many mistakes. As we drive along this road called life, occasionally a girl will find herself a little lost, and when that happens I guess she has to let go of the 'coulda, shoulda, woulda', buckle up, and just keep going." 

– Carrie, Sex in the City

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Reformed Bad Boy!

"Honestly, I don't want to be the 'trainer' anymore. I want the reformed bad boy." -GGE Girl

 

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The Good in You

Sometimes the one you're with holds up a mirror and you might not like what you see. Don't be angry just look closely, they only want you to see the good they see in you.

 

 

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"Sometimes the right thing and the hard thing are the same thing" – Liz, 30 Rock

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You Do Exist

And then all of a sudden, it shows up - 
the one that took so long to arrive, 
the one you’ve paid your dues for, 
the one that sees through all of your crap and brings out the real, better you. 
And you think: wow, you do exist.

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Roller Coaster Ride

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"I'm along for this roller coaster ride, with all of it's ups and downs. But when this ride isn't fun anymore, I'm getting off."

The roller coaster ride...mmm hmm. Sometimes the twists and turns of a relationship are exciting and can give such an amazing rush! But they can also have their fair share of downs that are scary and turns your stomach. Just keep in mind that it's best to evaluate your overall happiness with the relationship. No relationship is perfect. But if the ups/downs are just not manageable (aka fun) any more, and you are more unhappy than happy overall, then maybe it's time to get off that bumpy ride and try a new one.

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Absence...

"Absence is to love as wind is to fire - it extinguishes the small and kindles the great." 

- Roger de Bussy-Rabutin

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The Break-Up Card

 

Yup, probably the oldest negotitation tactic and the least effective: throwing out the Break-Up Card.

Why do we sometimes do this in relationships - throw out the breakup card when we don’t mean it? Is it to threaten? To create leverage? Or is just to get a rise? When you do this and don't mean it, it ends up undermining your credibility and even worse, hurts the other person and can have irrevocable damage. No one wants to feel played or be with someone who cries wolf. 

Play fair and say what you mean then stick to it. 

 

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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. - Rumi

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Rekindling Old Flames

"We all try on old clothes once in awhile, but just because they fit doesn't mean they look good."
- Blair, Gossip Girl

Rekindling old flames - ah yes. We've all been there. But just remember, there was probably a good reason why it ended when it did

 

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Essentials for Happiness

"The Grand essentials of happiness are:
something to do,
something to love,
and something to hope for."

- Chalmers

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My mind tells me to give up, but my heart won't let me.

Think we all can relate to this one. So what do you do when you have a conflict of the mind vs the heart? Let's be honest, typically the heart wins b/c the heart acts more on impulse, but then ultimately, you wish that the mind had over-ruled, b/c maybe it wasn't the best decision. I think when you're in conflict like this, you need to know what you're getting yourself into and be very clear which decision you're going after and the consequences. If you can face the reality of the impact of either decision then you will have better ownership of your actions.

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Third Date Rule?

"I never get intimate before the third-date." Agree or disagree? When is a good time to get down and dirty with someone?

 

I think the 3rd date rule has stood the test of time for a reason. It's a pretty good rule of thumb, I think. But in all honesty, I always like to air on the side of waiting as long as you can hold out. You gain so much more respect w/this approach plus you build some incredible sexual chemistry and longingness. Teasing and flirting and doing 'everything but' can be very sexy and sometimes, even more fun ;) I think it's a win-win if you can hold out longer. Besides, if he dumps you or acts weird b/c you held out too long, according to his timeline, then "done-and-done w/that one!" - he really, then, wasn't genuinely interested in you for the right reasons.

 

 

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Love ‘em all, trust few, fear none.

' Nuff Said ;-)

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The Rose and The Gardener

"In a relationship, there is always a rose and a gardener. So why am I always the gardener?"

- GGE Girl

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Which Hurts the Most?

Have you ever wondered which hurts the most: saying something and wishing you hadn't, or saying nothing, and wishing you had? 

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They say that if you love someone you should let them go, but they never say what to do when they don't come back.

i think this is why so many of us don't let go when we know we should. and then, if they don't come back, we obviously know we need to move on, but moving on can sometimes seem more scary than holding on.

 

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Sometimes the person you really need is the one you didn't think you wanted.

An awesome GGE fan sent this article to me - and I love what's at the heart of the message: 

Ditch the checklists! Mr. Not-Your-Type could become the love you dreamed of. 

Widen your scope and be open to other options! 

So true...so true!

 

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"He's a bad boy? Nah -he's just my guilty pleasure."

As long as you know what you're signing-up for, have fun! ... a GirlzGottaEat! ;-)

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When one door closes, another one opens...

Even when the first door slams shut, another door will open...

Also - it's tough to walk through a new open door unless the other door is fully closed (kinda hard to walk through a new one if you have one foot inside another).

Lots of silly metaphors - in sum, starting a new relationship is difficult if you haven't really said goodbye properly to the old one. The aftermath of a break-up can be hard, but moving on and breaking free from the post breakup-drama is important if you want to start a new fresh relationship.

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"Nobody can hurt me without my permission." - Ghandi

Such a powerful statement. We all have choices. Just remember this anytime there is pain. Relationships can be hard, walking away can be even harder. But it is always your choice.

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He's Gotta Be...

"He's gotta be strong, gotta be patient and maybe a little silly...cuz I am complex, bold and a little goofy, but I got a great big heart!"

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Read this Every Morning ...

"Laugh when you can,

Apologize when you should and

Let go of what you can't change. 

Love deeply and forgive quickly. 

Take chances. 

Give everything and have no regrets. 

Life is too short to be unhappy. 

You have to take the good with the bad. 

Smile when you should.

Love what you got and always remember what you had.

Always forgive but never forget.

Learn from your mistakes but never regret. 

People change and things go wrong.

But always remember life goes on." 

- Unknown

I saw this quote and it really made me think. WOW, does it capture everything.  I really love the part about "let go of what you can't change." If we can just remember these basic things, we would live such happier lives.  Enjoy everyone and be well :-)

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Don't hold on to Anger...

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else 

- you are the one who gets burned. 

-Buddha

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Insanity?

Girlfriend 1: So you're gonna kill me ...
Girlfriend 2: Why? What's going on ... wait, oh no, don't tell me ...
Girlfriend 1: Yup, I have been seeing him again.
Girlfriend 2: I mean seriously, are you serious? Can I just remind you how many times he has disappointed you? The lapse of phone calls? The lack of solid dates? How about all the drama that made you feel like crap, brought out the worst in you?
Girlfriend 1: I know, I know. And I have kicked myself about it. But I just don't get it - he sucks me back into this warped reality and I believe each time that he is going to change. Am I too nice? Weirdly hopeful? [almost giggling now]
Girlfriend 2: What is so funny?!
Girlfriend 1: [smiling] I dunno. It's almost comical at this point. I know exactly what I am doing, so why do I keep putting myself through this -- What is that they say about doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results?
Girlfriend 2: Ummm - think it's called Insanity.

- Albert Einstein

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"Moving on is simple, it's what we leave behind that's hard." - Unknown

There's something so strange about how the heart can hold on to something - maybe it's the thought of what could have been, maybe it's the idea or dream of what the person could have been. Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is let go of what you thought was real.

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Chemistry - Initial Spark or Evolution?

"Does there need to be an initial spark behind the kiss or can the chemistry evolve?" 

- Curious GGE girl wants to know what you think...

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The Keeper

At the end of the day, it doesn't really matter if he's hot - if he holds your hair back while you're sick and still tells you you're beautiful, yup, that's a keeper.

 

 

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"Love has the power of making you believe what you would normally treat with the deepest suspicion." - Mirabeau

Identifying what's real vs dream is hard. But it can make such a difference in being ble to walk away from something that is dysfunctional and going after what you really need and want.

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The Heart Doesn't Always Know What it Wants Until it FInds It

"It's not about who you’ve been with, its about who you end up with. Sometimes the heart doesn’t know what it wants until it finds what it wants." - Pam (The Office)

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